There are many who ask why we are making a site for returned missionaries. Shouldn’t RMs be strong enough to be okay after they get back from the mission? Why would they need an “RMTC” when they get back. Well, here are a few letters from RMs that may help you see why it is a good reason.
This is from Brett:
While I was on my mission I used to wonder why so many returned missionaries came home strong, wonderful returned missionaries and then began to fade into inactivity. It made no sense to me at the time and was a big focus of my thoughts. Well, when I finished my mission and returned to the monotony of every day life as a normal person, I understood why. To put it simply, being home from the mission is tough. Really tough. To go from being a part of changing peoples lives and being busy every single minute of every day to having nothing to do, nothing to look forward to, focusing on yourself, and being a part of nothing, is a painful transition. Ever since I’ve been home I’ve had my own struggles with staying positive and falling into temptations. It didn’t make any sense to me as to how the church would give no help, no RM training, not even a little booklet on how to re-integrate back into society. Missionaries are trained on how to teach, learn the language, and adjust to missionary life in the MTC but RM’s recieve nothing but a pat on the back and a pep talk on getting married. In my perspective returning from a mission and adjusting is much harder than going on a mission, especially if that means coming back from a foreign country with a complete different culture and language. I just wish there was something. I’ve seen so many of my RM buddies who served a wonderful worthy mission return and fall into inactivity. I wish the leaders would see the problem and try to do something about it, because whatever programs are in place (none that I know of) are working too well. I don’t mean this to sound like an attack, just a plea. I have a firm testimony in this church and everything I did for two years. I hope that something will be implemented. I think this is definately a great step forward. I’d really like to see it progress and would love to help in any way possible.
The hardest part about coming home from a mission is going from being part of something so huge, feeling needed and wanted, being unified with a huge group and being so focused on something I knew was right, to feeling like just another face in the crowd, with no calling, being focused on personal pursuits rather than the cause of Christ, and not feeling unified with anyone or anything.
These are just a few of the responses from a survey that was conducted. There is an obvious need to provide something for those who need a foundation when they come home. Maybe you disagree, but you may not be in the same situation as your former companions or some other returned missionary who returns to a totally different life than you. It is true that not all RMs need a structured guide to help them through the transition back, but there is definitely a majority that would benefit from more structure and more direction trickling down from those who have been through it.
Like Moroni said:
Condemn me not because of mine imperfection, neither my father, because of his imperfection…but rather give thanks unto God that he hath made manifest unto you our imperfections, that ye may learn to be more wise than we have been.
We hope that with the advice and guidance that is provided on this site, returned missionaries will be able to be more wise than those who have gone before them. Even if only one RM is strengthened through the content of this site, it will be worth all the time and effort it takes.